You Don’t Need to Become Someone New—You Just Need to Remember Who You Were Before the World Told You to Be Someone Else
Stop trying to become someone new. Start remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.
This is me at 2 or 3 years old - before the world told me to be someone else. Look at that face. Pure joy, complete authenticity, living fully in who she was created to be. I keep this photo on my vision board because every time I face challenges or need to make decisions, I ask myself: ‘What would you tell that little girl to do?’ She reminds me who I was before I learned to perform, before I dimmed my light, before I started wearing capes to save others. That sweet, innocent little girl? She’s still in there. And yours is too. Stop trying to become someone new - just remember who you were before the world got its hands on you. She’s been waiting for you to come home.
The real you isn’t someone you need to create. She’s someone you need to reclaim.
I don’t remember the exact day or moment it happened, but it was definitely after I was saved.
There were these ah-ha moments - looking back on my life and seeing when God was trying to show me who I was created to be, and realizing I had been acting on what I was hearing in the dark instead of what I was hearing in the light.
I was living OF the world rather than just IN the world.
It wasn’t until I was saved and saw the light that I realized something profound: This woman I was becoming wasn’t someone new. She was who I was created to be all along.
For years, I had allowed peer pressure, judgment, fear, pride, criticism, rejection, advice, and the pressure of others to dictate my actions and how I was living my life. I was living according to everyone else’s expectations rather than the life God was calling me to live.
That realization changed everything for me.
I went from feeling like I was working on being a “new” person - reinventing myself from scratch - to knowing that I was simply stepping into who I always was.
The shift was incredible: From struggling through a life that wasn’t meant for me to walking freely through a life that was always mine.
In the early days of my transformation, it felt forced. It felt like I was trying to change my identity, fighting against who I naturally was to become someone completely different. The effort was exhausting because I thought I was building a new person from the ground up.
But when this truth hit me - that I wasn’t forcing myself to become someone new, I was just stepping into the identity that was always mine - a huge sense of peace overcame me.
I wasn’t broken. I wasn’t defective. I wasn’t starting from scratch.
I was just buried under years of being who everyone else needed me to be.
The real me - the woman God created - had always been there. She was just covered up by layers of other people’s expectations, societal pressure, and the fear of not being accepted for who I truly was.
All those years, I had been trying to fit into a life that was too small for my soul. I had been dimming my light to make others comfortable. I had been silencing the voice inside me that knew better because the voices around me were louder.
But God’s voice? His voice had been there all along, gently calling me back to myself. Back to the woman He designed me to be before the world told me I needed to be someone else.
The peace I felt when I stopped trying to become someone new and started remembering who I’d always been was unlike anything I’d ever experienced. It was the relief of finally coming home to myself.
Your core values? They’re already there.
Your authentic character? It’s already within you.
The woman God created you to be? She’s not someone you need to invent - she’s someone you need to uncover.
You don’t need to reinvent yourself. You need to remember yourself.
Before the world told you to be quieter.
Before they said you were too much.
Before you learned to shrink to make others comfortable.
Before you started performing for approval.
Before you buried your true self under everyone else’s expectations.
That little girl who knew exactly who she was before anyone told her she was wrong? She’s still in there. That woman who had dreams and values and a voice before the world convinced her to silence it? She’s waiting for you to remember her.
Stop trying to become someone new. Start remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.
The real you isn’t someone you need to create. She’s someone you need to reclaim.
You’re not broken, beautiful. You’re just buried. And it’s time to come home to yourself.